Family...

It’s hard not to wonder during the day to day struggles…

…if we’re doing the right things.

 

As we navigate the logistics of getting them from here to there.

As we attempt to stay afloat.

As we weather the emotional storms and unknowns around every corner.

As we ride life’s roller coaster.

 

…but glimmers of light find their way in

…in the spaces in between

That whisper…

You’re doing OK.

You’re getting thru to them…

…in small, yet meaningful ways

 

…about what we all mean to each other

 

Family.

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The BIG Give in 2018 Follow-Up...

At the end of last year, I repitched an idea I had from 2015 called The BIG Give. In short, I proposed telling someone's story over the course of an entire year.  A BIG ask. A BIG give. A truly vulnerable place to be.

The call for entries fell on receptive ears and I was humbled to read heartfelt emails from people detailing why I should document their lives. In the end, I chose the very first submission by Niger Alabi, a single mom in Baltimore city. 

 'I became a mother at the age of 16. Despite the odds, I completed high school with the rest of my class magna cum laude and I hold two degrees. I never let anything stop me from achieving my goals.  I now have 3 beautiful children and my story is that of a mother who does it all. I work,  cook,  clean,  help with assignments,  volunteer in my community,  donate to great causes,   contribute to other members of my family,  and I make life fun.  My life is a rollercoaster but, I would not change it.'

Today we met for the first time. I think I can speak for all of us when I say that we weren't sure what to expect. Niger and I greeted each other with a hug and each child shook my hand, wondering who I was and what I was about.

Over the course of almost two hours, we shared stories about our lives -- our struggles and triumphs. We discussed the project and what it might be like over the course of the year...and I think the kids warmed up to the idea of what it might be like to see me on a regular basis. I admitted to never having been to the part of town that I now found myself in. We talked about the struggles of Baltimore city, the aging infrastructure, bureaucracy, the need for funding and housing...and the importance of family. 

By the time I left, I knew in my heart that this project was going to be rewarding in so many ways. We left each other with handshakes and hugs and excitement for what's to come.

I hope you'll continue to follow along as I document the Alabi family...

Rodney, Blessing, Niger + Demitri : January 15, 2018

Rodney, Blessing, Niger + Demitri : January 15, 2018